DILEMMA ABOUT HAPPINESS

To have broaden lips and teeth visible means " A smile" for major people out there.

Does that mean a person carrying smile is happy? What is the measure of happiness? How can you you know if a person is really happy or just carrying smile?

Do the people who have achieved a lot at the young age are happy totally?

Or are the ones who are struggling to reach their set goals are unhappy totally?

I believe to me happiness is your mood. It can be to watch a cute smile on baby's face. It can be the moment when you play bowling and all of the pins get knocked down with the first ball of a frame.

It can be to be on a family holiday and reliving the old memories of childhood. It can be just to pack up bags when going to even a small town via Indian Railways.

It can be to find a greeting card from an old friend while cleaning your wardrobe.

It can be a one rupee note which is your first pocket money.

It can be just to walk on the terrace and seeing planes crossing overhead.

It is just to feel the breeze in the hair. It is to get clicked randomly at weird places.

It is to make funny faces in the mirror and laugh aloud on yourself.

So, the point being a person who has achieved success at the young age may have missed out to squeeze happiness from tiny things happening in day to day life. He/ she may have invested most of the time and money on his/her business leaving behind his/her family. To reach to that success he has lost many things on personal level. That is a sacrifice. You can't be happy always. To be happy and successful you need to sacrifice. I believe Sacrifice is the key to happiness.

My mantra to happiness would be to make tiny little things happening in day to day life a ray of happiness and keep working towards your targets in life. This way you can burst your stress and can have a balance between your personal and professional life.

YET ANOTHER DILEMMA ABOUT LIFE

I have come up with yet another dilemma about LIFE. Is life a drama? Are we just the actors of this drama?
Shakespeare has said many a times that Life is a drama and we are just puppets.Do you really think so?

When we are sitting in front of the 35 mm screen in the movie theater. And when some kind of emotional scene appears on the screen, tears starts rolling down your cheeks. When we watch some horror movie. We can't sleep that night. At night when there is a pin drop silence and if frog croaks, your heart starts throbbing. The white color pyjams hanging on a string outside would appear to be halloween. Strange but true we all start living the drama playing on the screen though we know there is nothing real about it.

And yet we say life is a drama. Yes it is until unless we get out of deep slumber.

If you believe that life is a drama. Then when some one would love a girl deeply, madly, crazily, for him, that girl would also become a dream, his love would also become a dream. He would say let me get my girl first and then I'll believe that yeah Life is a dream.
If you would believe that life is a drama. Then when some one want to make a big mansion would say that let me make my mansion then I can take it that yeah life is a dream. If some politician would believe that Life is a drama then he would say that let me become chief minister of the state then I can believe that yeah Life is a drama.

Life is a drama.Every one is a puppet. Nothing is constant. "Sab moh maya hai" and all these things are better suited for old people. Why? Because they have already lived life. So the point being until unless we'll have desires to fulfill life can't be a drama for us. The day we'll achieve everything we want, life will become a drama, a story with a happy ending. :) #dilemmasofpriyajain

DILEMMA ABOUT FAITH

Faith??? Does it grow with time? Does it shrink with distance? Should it exist? And here I am referring to the faith in the other person.

What I used to believe is faith grows steadily with each day you spent time with your loved ones. They start knowing you and unknowingly develop faith in you. I have seen couples who were there with each other for 8-9 years in a beautiful love relationship and finally got married. And to my utter shock they got separated. Why??? Because they lack faith in each other. So, my belief turned out into a myth. Faith is not directly proportional to time.

Talk about distances. The closer you live, the closer your hearts are and stronger is the faith. But long distance relationships do exist and believe me they have stronger faith in each other as compared to the ones who live nearby. Why??? As to have a peaceful, true and everlasting relationship faith is the most vital ingredient. 

So what defines faith? And how to develop it? Faith in some one means no complaints about anything the other person do as you have faith in him/her that there has to be a reason behind what he/she does and that has to be good for both the people. Faith means understanding. Faith means reading each other eyes. Faith means silence. Faith means prayer. Faith means pious. 

How to develop faith? Simple just be yourself. Be loyal. Don’t be afraid of speaking the truth. Share what is within. And have faith in the other person that he/she’ll understand. Faith has to be two- way. It is all about give and take. If you can’t get it in return, you’ll start losing it for the other person.

So be raw, be you, be true and develop it. 

So all of you there who deal with faith issues in a relationship open your eyes and see what you have. Treasure what you have. Analyzing, calculating and over thinking can give you profits in your businesses but will turn you into a looser if you take all these into consideration while building a relationship. Love can never be tested. It simply flows. Flow with it and cover the beautiful journey together. (tweet- worthy)

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DILEMMA ABOUT "MOVING ON"

When people tell you to move on, what do they actually mean. Should you simply forget everything that occurred in past? Should you simply detach yourself from your past? How could one do that? People should say things which they themselves can do. Else whatever they are saying is making no sense.

Moving On means to start living once again. To start caring about oneself once again. To be on the road back to normal. To laugh aloud when alone even though your throat is choked. To sing aloud in shower. To feel the nature. To give chance to others to get closer to you. To keep doors open to let in the happiness. Yeah this is my definition of moving on.

For say if you have lost your beloved. But if you are told not to remember him, not cry for him, not to crave for him, not to remember the beautiful times you spend with him. Excuse me you are a human being and that too a normal human being and not a person with memory loss. This taruma will be there with you till your last breathe.

You must be wishing right now that "God please erase my memory and then I'll be all right." Is this possible? Noooo. 

So I believe Moving On means to be happy and calm where ever you are, with whomsoever you are, in what ever conditions you are. As nothing remains constant. Time changes, circumstance changes, outlook for life changes, what doesn't change is your soul. I wanna be successful but the most important thing is I wanna be a person I can fall in love with.

Moving on comes with trying. As nothing can be done without giving it a try. For every thing to do in life you need to take a leap of faith. Life is a path made of leaps of faith itself. No matter what happens in life you should never stop trying.The day you have stopped doing that you are giving a call to more sufferings. you will only suffer when you want that. Start feeling happy about what you have and you'll attract more happiness. So the biggest way out of moving on is KEEP TRYING.  

A never give up attitude in life always keep you alive.If you cant get up in the worst then you'll never be able to hold the best.If you are loosing hope and courage now you are closing your doors for the future reasons of merry- making.Time will never reamin the same. Bad times will be leaded by the good times. And if you'll not have bad times you can never value good times. So bad is the new good. 

Look back over the last 10 years of your life. Make a list of the worst things that happened to you. Look at your fears. Your sadness. Your rock bottoms.

Then, realize that even though you went through ALL of THAT, you made it to today. Use this as evidence of how strong you are, and how Loving The Universe really is. And then, with this new evidence, perhaps you will have even more faith and desire to march with your head held high and your chest proud into the unknown.Why? Because when you look back at your life 10 years from then, you will feel the same way then also and that is... that no matter what happened... you made it.

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DILEMMA ABOUT COMPROMISE

I have seen many people saying that life is all about comprise whether you accept it or not. And I strongly disagree that. We are not here to compromise. We have a purpose and that is why we are sent here. 
See what we do our whole lives and especially woman. When a baby is born he doesn't know who he is. He gets his identity from his parents. He is sent to temple, mosque, synagogue, monastery and like that he gets his religion. 

Eventually he starts learning about relations, life, hardships,victory, failure and thick and thins of life. He starts thinking about his own family members and starts sacrificing his dreams for his family. Which in my view is the blunder he is doing. One should never kill his dreams as this will not give him happiness and that in turn will not make his loved ones happy. At times you feel like I dream a lot more than my capability. You doubt yourself, again you are committing one more mistake. To fulfill all your dreams you may take time, you may disappoint your loved ones for a while but believe when you reach your goal they will be more than happy. They stop you from those things which in their view give you pain. They are impatient. But you should not be. 

Now lets gather around and talk about love relationships. A guy likes a gal and the gal likes a guy. Perfect. They are certain that they can live with each other forever. Awesome and simple Isn't it?? Now how after certain period of time you can think about the same person that he she has changed over time and I don't feel the same for her or him. I think if I'll be with him or her I am gonna compromise throughout my life. She is the same gal and he is the same guy. What must have happened???

It means they became certain about each other just too fast. That s where patience and time plays a very important role in every aspect of your life. 
Compromise should not come in any relation that is what I feel. You both should be free birds while being in a relationship. If he/ she loves you it simply means yes they love YOU fully you and just not a part of you. So, accept your partner the way he/she is. 

Don't try to bring changes in them for your own good. Yes you can tell them things if you think those things can bring a positive change in the other person. Nothing wrong in that. But there should be a way of telling. You should calmly tell your partner that buddy what you are doing can relle put you in trouble and that's it. And then don't expect that they gonna listen to you. As they are individuals. You can never force anybody to do something , you just can tell them.

This way make your life simpler, happier and worth living. Live and let live. Where there is love there is no force. Let your partner be him or her.

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" Live life to the utmost. Squeeze happiness from every single moment. So that you don't repent later that; THAT MOMENT PASSED AND YOU MISSED !!!"

Welcome to Life (Asylum)

"A- Way from Catch 22"- A paradox in which the attempt to escape makes escape impossible.

What life is? A life is a situation ,you cannot escape until unless the supreme power wants it. You cannot escape life yourself. So Life is a" catch 22 situation". You have to live life. So how about living it beautifully. 

Life is a series of dilemma. Since the time we become conscious about oneself, dilemma begins. What to do in life? With whom you should live your life? Who can be your friends? Which career is best for you? Whom to marry? How to lead a peaceful married life? And so on.... 

The sole purpose of this blog is to take you away from all the dilemmas that life is providing us. To find a way in the direction opposite to our dilemmas.


I want to present you an ASYLUM OF LIFE. Here we will ponder upon our dilemmas. We gonna beat all the dilemmas. Once we have beaten all confusions, we will enter the heaven - LIFE!!!

Some people just do it. Some people take thier time to think, analyse and apply. Some believe in hit and trial and some believe in reasoning. Who is better? and Why? We together will reach to the conclusion. 


We all our a family. We all have to support each other and we all will find a way out together. We all are humans and our religion is HUMANITY. Your worries, miseries, dilemmas are most welcome here.

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" Live life to the utmost. Squeeze happiness from every single moment. So that you don't repent later that; THAT MOMENT PASSED AND YOU MISSED !!!"