DILEMMA ABOUT FAITH

Faith??? Does it grow with time? Does it shrink with distance? Should it exist? And here I am referring to the faith in the other person.

What I used to believe is faith grows steadily with each day you spent time with your loved ones. They start knowing you and unknowingly develop faith in you. I have seen couples who were there with each other for 8-9 years in a beautiful love relationship and finally got married. And to my utter shock they got separated. Why??? Because they lack faith in each other. So, my belief turned out into a myth. Faith is not directly proportional to time.

Talk about distances. The closer you live, the closer your hearts are and stronger is the faith. But long distance relationships do exist and believe me they have stronger faith in each other as compared to the ones who live nearby. Why??? As to have a peaceful, true and everlasting relationship faith is the most vital ingredient. 

So what defines faith? And how to develop it? Faith in some one means no complaints about anything the other person do as you have faith in him/her that there has to be a reason behind what he/she does and that has to be good for both the people. Faith means understanding. Faith means reading each other eyes. Faith means silence. Faith means prayer. Faith means pious. 

How to develop faith? Simple just be yourself. Be loyal. Don’t be afraid of speaking the truth. Share what is within. And have faith in the other person that he/she’ll understand. Faith has to be two- way. It is all about give and take. If you can’t get it in return, you’ll start losing it for the other person.

So be raw, be you, be true and develop it. 

So all of you there who deal with faith issues in a relationship open your eyes and see what you have. Treasure what you have. Analyzing, calculating and over thinking can give you profits in your businesses but will turn you into a looser if you take all these into consideration while building a relationship. Love can never be tested. It simply flows. Flow with it and cover the beautiful journey together. (tweet- worthy)

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DILEMMA ABOUT TIME

Let it go. Let it move away. Let it follow its direction. You cannot get hold of anyone in life. Not time. Not people and not circumstances. All of them will move. Nothing remains stagnant and that is what life is. 

People come in your life- gives you memories to cherish lifelong, lessons unlimited, make you understand who you are, some will be your inspiration, some will be your power and some will be the reasons for your successful in way or the other. 

But no one will stick with you forever. One has to leave. Everyone has got a role to play in your life. The day role is going to over, person has to leave.  But you’ll not be empty handed. You’ll be having his/her words always with you ringing in your head.

Talk about time and circumstances. You are happy- you are enjoying- you are shopping- you are hanging out- you are travelling- you are back to work- you are back to daily routine- Someone passes away- you are sad- you are broken- you have lost the job- you are disappointed- you are losing hope- you got a chance once again- you got a job- you got a routine- you are back to normal. 

Time can never remain the same. It tests you. But you’ll always pass the test as time has to pass.

So the bottom line is- Never get hold of things in life. The more you want to hold them, the more you’ll be suffering when they’ll leave you. Sand in your hand will leave your grip and escape. If water becomes stagnant, it’ll stink badly. The same way your life will stink if situations will remain constant.

Moral of the story is - Nothing lasts forever. Like the trees in autumn, you too must learn to shed your attachments and start afresh.

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DILEMMA ABOUT FREEDOM

Dilemma about freedom

FREE- DOM- Is freedom free of safety, security, harassment for girls? Freedom is what every one needs. If someone is restricted, caged and stopped to follow one's will, one feels dead. Isn't it?? Free will will make you fly. It will make you fulfill all your dreams. It will help you grow beautifully inside out. Freedom gives you self confidence and positivity.

What role freedom plays in a relationship? Freedom in a relationship means SPACE. True and healthy relationship is the one where no one binds eachother instead where both of them Fly together.Constant questioning, Doubting, reporting, insecurity, lack of trust: these may lead to a suffering, a burdened relationship.

What wonders can freedom do in a family?Parents should give enough freedom to thier children if they want to show them the right path in life. My parents trust me blindly, actually I should not use the word blindly that may portray that I am at fault and making fool of my parents. They trust me totally. Now it sounds much better. :) I treat my parents as my best friends. Why???

Because they have given me my space. They listen to my problems and not shout and react. Instead give me the support that "yeah we are with you darling." They are very calm with me and thats the reason I feel free with them. Now I can never think of misusing the freedom they have given me. I'll always respect my morals and principles.

Now how can one misuse the freedom??? What too much of freedom can result into??? How to know one's own limits??? OK!!! now as I told you freedom means to do whatever one feels like doing. Do you think our heart always tell you to do the right thing? I think No,  heart makes you an emotional vampire. There should be a synchronization between your mind, heart and soul.

When three of them tell you something to do, JUST DO IT without giving it a second thought.When three of them are conflicting, do what your intuition, gut feeling or soul (whatever you call it) is advising you to do. You'll never be misguided. Thats how you will know your limits. To respect your limits means freedom. 

Now talk about freedom of girls in India and abroad. In Indian culture girls are the representative of the family "aan baan shaan" i.e. prestige. Why only girls are responsible for it?
If I'll tell my father that "daddy if you can allow my brother to go on a tour with his freinds, why cant you allow me?" What  he gonna tell me  "Dear you are a girl thats why."

Why is he being partial? And the biggest reason is : he cares. In India girls are not secured. And we have to understand this. In schools instead of PT, girls should be taught Twakando, judo karate and other self defense activities.

Whats the scene in abroad?? In western culture girls and boys are treated on same level. Parents leave them on thier own. They actually do whatever they feel like. They hardly have any limits. Still they feel depressed, sad and lonely. Why?? The reason is too much of freedom and lack of limits.

So we should have freedom in life but up to what extent totally depends on you and only you. So know your limits and you'll be flying High leaving all the worries back down there.

 Eye- Opening Quotes about FREEDOM

“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
― Gloria Steinem 

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”
― Mahatma Gandhi 

“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre  

“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”
― Robert A. Heinlein
 


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DILEMMA ABOUT EXPECTATION

Expect-tation meaning by Collin's dictionary is a strong belief that something will happen or be the case.To have strong belief is good. But to crave for the future is bad. Confused!!! To have faith in your destiny is a good thing as life is a series of leaps of faith. Faith is the antidote of fear. But as and when you start expecting things, faith becomes a disease as it 'll give rise to fear.

So the point here I would like to make is Have faith in yourself but never expect anything out of it. Keep doing your work sincerely. Perform the task given to you by the Uni-verse. That is in your hands but time is not in your hands.

Destiny is not in your hands. You are the creation and Creator is looking after the time and destiny. Let him perform his tasks. You should concentrate on your activities.

Now another discussion about expectation is in terms of relationships. Should we expect from our partners, parents, friends and all our near and dear ones. My answer is you should not. You must be wondering, how come we should not expect from the close people. Then what is the use of being close to them? This question itself contains the answer- USE. When we love we cant think of using the other person.

If a person is loving, caring, understanding, supportive to you. It doesn't mean you start expecting things from him. He loves you selflessly. And for me expectation is all about selfishness.

The root cause of misunderstanding, clashes between loved ones is EXPECTATIONS. The day you'll stop expecting from your partner and start loving him or her the way he/she is, you'll enter the heaven.

So should we expect or not? Yes you should expect but just from yourself. Expect things out of you. That will give spirit to move on, to walk forward with grace, to step into the unknown. But the key here is as excess of everything is bad. Dont expect too much. And how will you know you are crossing the limits. Simple, every one knows one's potential. So expect in proportion of your potential. If you want to expect more, increase your potential.

So keep going, keep moving, keep working towards your goals. Your task is moving.

Eye- Opening Quotes about EXPECTATIONS

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” 
― Donald Miller

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” 
― Bruce Lee

“It takes three to make love, not two: you, your spouse, and God. Without God people only succeed in bringing out the worst in one another. Lovers who have nothing else to do but love each other soon find there is nothing else. Without a central loyalty life is unfinished.” 
― Fulton J. Sheen

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