DILEMMA ABOUT FREEDOM

Dilemma about freedom

FREE- DOM- Is freedom free of safety, security, harassment for girls? Freedom is what every one needs. If someone is restricted, caged and stopped to follow one's will, one feels dead. Isn't it?? Free will will make you fly. It will make you fulfill all your dreams. It will help you grow beautifully inside out. Freedom gives you self confidence and positivity.

What role freedom plays in a relationship? Freedom in a relationship means SPACE. True and healthy relationship is the one where no one binds eachother instead where both of them Fly together.Constant questioning, Doubting, reporting, insecurity, lack of trust: these may lead to a suffering, a burdened relationship.

What wonders can freedom do in a family?Parents should give enough freedom to thier children if they want to show them the right path in life. My parents trust me blindly, actually I should not use the word blindly that may portray that I am at fault and making fool of my parents. They trust me totally. Now it sounds much better. :) I treat my parents as my best friends. Why???

Because they have given me my space. They listen to my problems and not shout and react. Instead give me the support that "yeah we are with you darling." They are very calm with me and thats the reason I feel free with them. Now I can never think of misusing the freedom they have given me. I'll always respect my morals and principles.

Now how can one misuse the freedom??? What too much of freedom can result into??? How to know one's own limits??? OK!!! now as I told you freedom means to do whatever one feels like doing. Do you think our heart always tell you to do the right thing? I think No,  heart makes you an emotional vampire. There should be a synchronization between your mind, heart and soul.

When three of them tell you something to do, JUST DO IT without giving it a second thought.When three of them are conflicting, do what your intuition, gut feeling or soul (whatever you call it) is advising you to do. You'll never be misguided. Thats how you will know your limits. To respect your limits means freedom. 

Now talk about freedom of girls in India and abroad. In Indian culture girls are the representative of the family "aan baan shaan" i.e. prestige. Why only girls are responsible for it?
If I'll tell my father that "daddy if you can allow my brother to go on a tour with his freinds, why cant you allow me?" What  he gonna tell me  "Dear you are a girl thats why."

Why is he being partial? And the biggest reason is : he cares. In India girls are not secured. And we have to understand this. In schools instead of PT, girls should be taught Twakando, judo karate and other self defense activities.

Whats the scene in abroad?? In western culture girls and boys are treated on same level. Parents leave them on thier own. They actually do whatever they feel like. They hardly have any limits. Still they feel depressed, sad and lonely. Why?? The reason is too much of freedom and lack of limits.

So we should have freedom in life but up to what extent totally depends on you and only you. So know your limits and you'll be flying High leaving all the worries back down there.

 Eye- Opening Quotes about FREEDOM

“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
― Gloria Steinem 

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”
― Mahatma Gandhi 

“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre  

“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”
― Robert A. Heinlein
 


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DILEMMA ABOUT FEAR

OK. So what is fear according to you? For me fear is nothing but a lack of sense of security, lack of faith, lack of hope, lack of self love. Fear is a lack.

So why one is afraid? The root reason behind the fear is losing. Be it losing love, losing a match, losing a game, loosing a friend, losing money. Whenever you feel like a loser, it means you are surrounded by fear.

Can fear be good in any way? My answer is yes. It keeps you going. If one is not afraid of anything, he can never value that thing. He'll be taking it for granted. He'll be careless towards it. And fear of losing will not affect him. So yes lil fear is good.

But too much anything is bad. And so is the case with fear. You'll lose hope and courage if you are way too afraid. You'll keep doubting your destiny and you'll end up no where. The juice of life is still left for such people to taste.

So just have lil fear in yourself and just run behind your dreams. Keep working towards them. And whenever you are afraid, just give it a thought : " Why you dreamt of such thing? What you gonna do when you'll finally reach your destination? And why you thought you have that potential to reach there?" And half the work is done.

Whenever you lose hope in life think about your achievements in life. Achievements need not to be big. For me bringing happiness on people's face is an achievement. Just ponder on "what defines your achievement?"

Whenever you feel like you gonna lose a friend or love partner. First analyse where you went wrong. And if the answer is you gave your 100 percent and still it didn't work out. Just say it in your mind that the other person is unlucky to not have you in his life. Always have that attitude in life. This is the way to reach the right person in life.


So the remedy to fear is Self- Trust and Self- Love. So people out there keep loving yourself. Have faith in yourself and you'll be there BANG ON!!!

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