DILEMMA ABOUT FAITH

Faith??? Does it grow with time? Does it shrink with distance? Should it exist? And here I am referring to the faith in the other person.

What I used to believe is faith grows steadily with each day you spent time with your loved ones. They start knowing you and unknowingly develop faith in you. I have seen couples who were there with each other for 8-9 years in a beautiful love relationship and finally got married. And to my utter shock they got separated. Why??? Because they lack faith in each other. So, my belief turned out into a myth. Faith is not directly proportional to time.

Talk about distances. The closer you live, the closer your hearts are and stronger is the faith. But long distance relationships do exist and believe me they have stronger faith in each other as compared to the ones who live nearby. Why??? As to have a peaceful, true and everlasting relationship faith is the most vital ingredient. 

So what defines faith? And how to develop it? Faith in some one means no complaints about anything the other person do as you have faith in him/her that there has to be a reason behind what he/she does and that has to be good for both the people. Faith means understanding. Faith means reading each other eyes. Faith means silence. Faith means prayer. Faith means pious. 

How to develop faith? Simple just be yourself. Be loyal. Don’t be afraid of speaking the truth. Share what is within. And have faith in the other person that he/she’ll understand. Faith has to be two- way. It is all about give and take. If you can’t get it in return, you’ll start losing it for the other person.

So be raw, be you, be true and develop it. 

So all of you there who deal with faith issues in a relationship open your eyes and see what you have. Treasure what you have. Analyzing, calculating and over thinking can give you profits in your businesses but will turn you into a looser if you take all these into consideration while building a relationship. Love can never be tested. It simply flows. Flow with it and cover the beautiful journey together. (tweet- worthy)

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DILEMMA ABOUT RESPECT

Have you ever pondered upon where do this RESPECT arises???? Who deserves it???? What is the thing that made you earn it???? Earn it I repeat. Yeah I got my answer even Respect is the attribute one has to earn.

You are talented, in fact multi-talented but couldn't earn out of it. You are a genius but opportunity is not knocking your door. You are eligible. You are capable. You have the caliber but your stars are not on your side. Your time is not correct. Do you think people will respect you? Forget about people your own family will respect you? (Hahaha, what are you thinking?) The answer is at one time or the other they'll burst and let you know that they don't respect you for not earning.

Do you think they sympathize with your situation? Yes they do. Sympathizing itself means a disrespect. To sympathize with a situation is to feel helpless, hopeless, pessimist. Its of no use. What one needs is Support- emotional and spiritual. Why your own loved ones lack in giving you that?

The simple and straight answer is they have spent on you and they want the return. They have spent not just money but their hard work, their time, their sincerity, their will and the last thing they want is to see you successful. When they see you loosing thy cant take it. They become frustrated and burst out. Is it their love? Yes it is they have a right to speak their heart out in front of you. Isn't it?

And when ever you feel you are disrespected by your loved ones or by the person least expected, always thank him or her for giving you the challenge to fight. For giving you the chance to prove yourself. Don't be disheartened, depressed and helpless. Just keep faith in yourself, your patience, your sincerity, your will power. You may take time to reach your dream. But the truth is time has to pass. It'll pass.
Till the time you don't deserve a thing, it'll not reach you. So in case you are not getting anything just put lil more effort and you will be bang on there. Always remember even airplane has to reach take off speed for that it rolls on runways before getting airborne. So keep rolling until you build the take off speed and soon you'll lift off. :) (tweet- worthy)

To walk a rosy path and reach your destination can never give you pleasure. The pleasure is in walking stony thorny burning path. The adventure lies in making your own path, finding unusual ways to reach your destination. And when finally you reach it there can be no feeling matchable to that.

So my friends who so ever feel he/she is suffering by not getting what they want, kindly stop feeling helpless and suffered. The time, the situation and your people are making you strong like iron. You are turning out to be a soldier, a steel man, UNBREAKABLE. An d I am proud to be an UNBREAKABLE. Keep chanting that "No one can break me, I am strong enough to fight the world. The power lies in me. I am my HERO." ( tweet- worthy)
Believe me, these lines will bring you back to the senses.These will sync you back with the life.

DILEMMA ABOUT FREEDOM

Dilemma about freedom

FREE- DOM- Is freedom free of safety, security, harassment for girls? Freedom is what every one needs. If someone is restricted, caged and stopped to follow one's will, one feels dead. Isn't it?? Free will will make you fly. It will make you fulfill all your dreams. It will help you grow beautifully inside out. Freedom gives you self confidence and positivity.

What role freedom plays in a relationship? Freedom in a relationship means SPACE. True and healthy relationship is the one where no one binds eachother instead where both of them Fly together.Constant questioning, Doubting, reporting, insecurity, lack of trust: these may lead to a suffering, a burdened relationship.

What wonders can freedom do in a family?Parents should give enough freedom to thier children if they want to show them the right path in life. My parents trust me blindly, actually I should not use the word blindly that may portray that I am at fault and making fool of my parents. They trust me totally. Now it sounds much better. :) I treat my parents as my best friends. Why???

Because they have given me my space. They listen to my problems and not shout and react. Instead give me the support that "yeah we are with you darling." They are very calm with me and thats the reason I feel free with them. Now I can never think of misusing the freedom they have given me. I'll always respect my morals and principles.

Now how can one misuse the freedom??? What too much of freedom can result into??? How to know one's own limits??? OK!!! now as I told you freedom means to do whatever one feels like doing. Do you think our heart always tell you to do the right thing? I think No,  heart makes you an emotional vampire. There should be a synchronization between your mind, heart and soul.

When three of them tell you something to do, JUST DO IT without giving it a second thought.When three of them are conflicting, do what your intuition, gut feeling or soul (whatever you call it) is advising you to do. You'll never be misguided. Thats how you will know your limits. To respect your limits means freedom. 

Now talk about freedom of girls in India and abroad. In Indian culture girls are the representative of the family "aan baan shaan" i.e. prestige. Why only girls are responsible for it?
If I'll tell my father that "daddy if you can allow my brother to go on a tour with his freinds, why cant you allow me?" What  he gonna tell me  "Dear you are a girl thats why."

Why is he being partial? And the biggest reason is : he cares. In India girls are not secured. And we have to understand this. In schools instead of PT, girls should be taught Twakando, judo karate and other self defense activities.

Whats the scene in abroad?? In western culture girls and boys are treated on same level. Parents leave them on thier own. They actually do whatever they feel like. They hardly have any limits. Still they feel depressed, sad and lonely. Why?? The reason is too much of freedom and lack of limits.

So we should have freedom in life but up to what extent totally depends on you and only you. So know your limits and you'll be flying High leaving all the worries back down there.

 Eye- Opening Quotes about FREEDOM

“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
― Gloria Steinem 

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”
― Mahatma Gandhi 

“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre  

“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”
― Robert A. Heinlein
 


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DILEMMA ABOUT FEAR

OK. So what is fear according to you? For me fear is nothing but a lack of sense of security, lack of faith, lack of hope, lack of self love. Fear is a lack.

So why one is afraid? The root reason behind the fear is losing. Be it losing love, losing a match, losing a game, loosing a friend, losing money. Whenever you feel like a loser, it means you are surrounded by fear.

Can fear be good in any way? My answer is yes. It keeps you going. If one is not afraid of anything, he can never value that thing. He'll be taking it for granted. He'll be careless towards it. And fear of losing will not affect him. So yes lil fear is good.

But too much anything is bad. And so is the case with fear. You'll lose hope and courage if you are way too afraid. You'll keep doubting your destiny and you'll end up no where. The juice of life is still left for such people to taste.

So just have lil fear in yourself and just run behind your dreams. Keep working towards them. And whenever you are afraid, just give it a thought : " Why you dreamt of such thing? What you gonna do when you'll finally reach your destination? And why you thought you have that potential to reach there?" And half the work is done.

Whenever you lose hope in life think about your achievements in life. Achievements need not to be big. For me bringing happiness on people's face is an achievement. Just ponder on "what defines your achievement?"

Whenever you feel like you gonna lose a friend or love partner. First analyse where you went wrong. And if the answer is you gave your 100 percent and still it didn't work out. Just say it in your mind that the other person is unlucky to not have you in his life. Always have that attitude in life. This is the way to reach the right person in life.


So the remedy to fear is Self- Trust and Self- Love. So people out there keep loving yourself. Have faith in yourself and you'll be there BANG ON!!!

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DILEMMA ABOUT "MOVING ON"

When people tell you to move on, what do they actually mean. Should you simply forget everything that occurred in past? Should you simply detach yourself from your past? How could one do that? People should say things which they themselves can do. Else whatever they are saying is making no sense.

Moving On means to start living once again. To start caring about oneself once again. To be on the road back to normal. To laugh aloud when alone even though your throat is choked. To sing aloud in shower. To feel the nature. To give chance to others to get closer to you. To keep doors open to let in the happiness. Yeah this is my definition of moving on.

For say if you have lost your beloved. But if you are told not to remember him, not cry for him, not to crave for him, not to remember the beautiful times you spend with him. Excuse me you are a human being and that too a normal human being and not a person with memory loss. This taruma will be there with you till your last breathe.

You must be wishing right now that "God please erase my memory and then I'll be all right." Is this possible? Noooo. 

So I believe Moving On means to be happy and calm where ever you are, with whomsoever you are, in what ever conditions you are. As nothing remains constant. Time changes, circumstance changes, outlook for life changes, what doesn't change is your soul. I wanna be successful but the most important thing is I wanna be a person I can fall in love with.

Moving on comes with trying. As nothing can be done without giving it a try. For every thing to do in life you need to take a leap of faith. Life is a path made of leaps of faith itself. No matter what happens in life you should never stop trying.The day you have stopped doing that you are giving a call to more sufferings. you will only suffer when you want that. Start feeling happy about what you have and you'll attract more happiness. So the biggest way out of moving on is KEEP TRYING.  

A never give up attitude in life always keep you alive.If you cant get up in the worst then you'll never be able to hold the best.If you are loosing hope and courage now you are closing your doors for the future reasons of merry- making.Time will never reamin the same. Bad times will be leaded by the good times. And if you'll not have bad times you can never value good times. So bad is the new good. 

Look back over the last 10 years of your life. Make a list of the worst things that happened to you. Look at your fears. Your sadness. Your rock bottoms.

Then, realize that even though you went through ALL of THAT, you made it to today. Use this as evidence of how strong you are, and how Loving The Universe really is. And then, with this new evidence, perhaps you will have even more faith and desire to march with your head held high and your chest proud into the unknown.Why? Because when you look back at your life 10 years from then, you will feel the same way then also and that is... that no matter what happened... you made it.

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