DILEMMA ABOUT FAITH

Faith??? Does it grow with time? Does it shrink with distance? Should it exist? And here I am referring to the faith in the other person.

What I used to believe is faith grows steadily with each day you spent time with your loved ones. They start knowing you and unknowingly develop faith in you. I have seen couples who were there with each other for 8-9 years in a beautiful love relationship and finally got married. And to my utter shock they got separated. Why??? Because they lack faith in each other. So, my belief turned out into a myth. Faith is not directly proportional to time.

Talk about distances. The closer you live, the closer your hearts are and stronger is the faith. But long distance relationships do exist and believe me they have stronger faith in each other as compared to the ones who live nearby. Why??? As to have a peaceful, true and everlasting relationship faith is the most vital ingredient. 

So what defines faith? And how to develop it? Faith in some one means no complaints about anything the other person do as you have faith in him/her that there has to be a reason behind what he/she does and that has to be good for both the people. Faith means understanding. Faith means reading each other eyes. Faith means silence. Faith means prayer. Faith means pious. 

How to develop faith? Simple just be yourself. Be loyal. Don’t be afraid of speaking the truth. Share what is within. And have faith in the other person that he/she’ll understand. Faith has to be two- way. It is all about give and take. If you can’t get it in return, you’ll start losing it for the other person.

So be raw, be you, be true and develop it. 

So all of you there who deal with faith issues in a relationship open your eyes and see what you have. Treasure what you have. Analyzing, calculating and over thinking can give you profits in your businesses but will turn you into a looser if you take all these into consideration while building a relationship. Love can never be tested. It simply flows. Flow with it and cover the beautiful journey together. (tweet- worthy)

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DILEMMA ABOUT TIME

Let it go. Let it move away. Let it follow its direction. You cannot get hold of anyone in life. Not time. Not people and not circumstances. All of them will move. Nothing remains stagnant and that is what life is. 

People come in your life- gives you memories to cherish lifelong, lessons unlimited, make you understand who you are, some will be your inspiration, some will be your power and some will be the reasons for your successful in way or the other. 

But no one will stick with you forever. One has to leave. Everyone has got a role to play in your life. The day role is going to over, person has to leave.  But you’ll not be empty handed. You’ll be having his/her words always with you ringing in your head.

Talk about time and circumstances. You are happy- you are enjoying- you are shopping- you are hanging out- you are travelling- you are back to work- you are back to daily routine- Someone passes away- you are sad- you are broken- you have lost the job- you are disappointed- you are losing hope- you got a chance once again- you got a job- you got a routine- you are back to normal. 

Time can never remain the same. It tests you. But you’ll always pass the test as time has to pass.

So the bottom line is- Never get hold of things in life. The more you want to hold them, the more you’ll be suffering when they’ll leave you. Sand in your hand will leave your grip and escape. If water becomes stagnant, it’ll stink badly. The same way your life will stink if situations will remain constant.

Moral of the story is - Nothing lasts forever. Like the trees in autumn, you too must learn to shed your attachments and start afresh.

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DILEMMA ABOUT FREEDOM

Dilemma about freedom

FREE- DOM- Is freedom free of safety, security, harassment for girls? Freedom is what every one needs. If someone is restricted, caged and stopped to follow one's will, one feels dead. Isn't it?? Free will will make you fly. It will make you fulfill all your dreams. It will help you grow beautifully inside out. Freedom gives you self confidence and positivity.

What role freedom plays in a relationship? Freedom in a relationship means SPACE. True and healthy relationship is the one where no one binds eachother instead where both of them Fly together.Constant questioning, Doubting, reporting, insecurity, lack of trust: these may lead to a suffering, a burdened relationship.

What wonders can freedom do in a family?Parents should give enough freedom to thier children if they want to show them the right path in life. My parents trust me blindly, actually I should not use the word blindly that may portray that I am at fault and making fool of my parents. They trust me totally. Now it sounds much better. :) I treat my parents as my best friends. Why???

Because they have given me my space. They listen to my problems and not shout and react. Instead give me the support that "yeah we are with you darling." They are very calm with me and thats the reason I feel free with them. Now I can never think of misusing the freedom they have given me. I'll always respect my morals and principles.

Now how can one misuse the freedom??? What too much of freedom can result into??? How to know one's own limits??? OK!!! now as I told you freedom means to do whatever one feels like doing. Do you think our heart always tell you to do the right thing? I think No,  heart makes you an emotional vampire. There should be a synchronization between your mind, heart and soul.

When three of them tell you something to do, JUST DO IT without giving it a second thought.When three of them are conflicting, do what your intuition, gut feeling or soul (whatever you call it) is advising you to do. You'll never be misguided. Thats how you will know your limits. To respect your limits means freedom. 

Now talk about freedom of girls in India and abroad. In Indian culture girls are the representative of the family "aan baan shaan" i.e. prestige. Why only girls are responsible for it?
If I'll tell my father that "daddy if you can allow my brother to go on a tour with his freinds, why cant you allow me?" What  he gonna tell me  "Dear you are a girl thats why."

Why is he being partial? And the biggest reason is : he cares. In India girls are not secured. And we have to understand this. In schools instead of PT, girls should be taught Twakando, judo karate and other self defense activities.

Whats the scene in abroad?? In western culture girls and boys are treated on same level. Parents leave them on thier own. They actually do whatever they feel like. They hardly have any limits. Still they feel depressed, sad and lonely. Why?? The reason is too much of freedom and lack of limits.

So we should have freedom in life but up to what extent totally depends on you and only you. So know your limits and you'll be flying High leaving all the worries back down there.

 Eye- Opening Quotes about FREEDOM

“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
― Gloria Steinem 

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”
― Mahatma Gandhi 

“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre  

“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”
― Robert A. Heinlein
 


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DILEMMA ABOUT "MOVING ON"

When people tell you to move on, what do they actually mean. Should you simply forget everything that occurred in past? Should you simply detach yourself from your past? How could one do that? People should say things which they themselves can do. Else whatever they are saying is making no sense.

Moving On means to start living once again. To start caring about oneself once again. To be on the road back to normal. To laugh aloud when alone even though your throat is choked. To sing aloud in shower. To feel the nature. To give chance to others to get closer to you. To keep doors open to let in the happiness. Yeah this is my definition of moving on.

For say if you have lost your beloved. But if you are told not to remember him, not cry for him, not to crave for him, not to remember the beautiful times you spend with him. Excuse me you are a human being and that too a normal human being and not a person with memory loss. This taruma will be there with you till your last breathe.

You must be wishing right now that "God please erase my memory and then I'll be all right." Is this possible? Noooo. 

So I believe Moving On means to be happy and calm where ever you are, with whomsoever you are, in what ever conditions you are. As nothing remains constant. Time changes, circumstance changes, outlook for life changes, what doesn't change is your soul. I wanna be successful but the most important thing is I wanna be a person I can fall in love with.

Moving on comes with trying. As nothing can be done without giving it a try. For every thing to do in life you need to take a leap of faith. Life is a path made of leaps of faith itself. No matter what happens in life you should never stop trying.The day you have stopped doing that you are giving a call to more sufferings. you will only suffer when you want that. Start feeling happy about what you have and you'll attract more happiness. So the biggest way out of moving on is KEEP TRYING.  

A never give up attitude in life always keep you alive.If you cant get up in the worst then you'll never be able to hold the best.If you are loosing hope and courage now you are closing your doors for the future reasons of merry- making.Time will never reamin the same. Bad times will be leaded by the good times. And if you'll not have bad times you can never value good times. So bad is the new good. 

Look back over the last 10 years of your life. Make a list of the worst things that happened to you. Look at your fears. Your sadness. Your rock bottoms.

Then, realize that even though you went through ALL of THAT, you made it to today. Use this as evidence of how strong you are, and how Loving The Universe really is. And then, with this new evidence, perhaps you will have even more faith and desire to march with your head held high and your chest proud into the unknown.Why? Because when you look back at your life 10 years from then, you will feel the same way then also and that is... that no matter what happened... you made it.

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