DILEMMA ABOUT HAPPINESS

To have broaden lips and teeth visible means " A smile" for major people out there.

Does that mean a person carrying smile is happy? What is the measure of happiness? How can you you know if a person is really happy or just carrying smile?

Do the people who have achieved a lot at the young age are happy totally?

Or are the ones who are struggling to reach their set goals are unhappy totally?

I believe to me happiness is your mood. It can be to watch a cute smile on baby's face. It can be the moment when you play bowling and all of the pins get knocked down with the first ball of a frame.

It can be to be on a family holiday and reliving the old memories of childhood. It can be just to pack up bags when going to even a small town via Indian Railways.

It can be to find a greeting card from an old friend while cleaning your wardrobe.

It can be a one rupee note which is your first pocket money.

It can be just to walk on the terrace and seeing planes crossing overhead.

It is just to feel the breeze in the hair. It is to get clicked randomly at weird places.

It is to make funny faces in the mirror and laugh aloud on yourself.

So, the point being a person who has achieved success at the young age may have missed out to squeeze happiness from tiny things happening in day to day life. He/ she may have invested most of the time and money on his/her business leaving behind his/her family. To reach to that success he has lost many things on personal level. That is a sacrifice. You can't be happy always. To be happy and successful you need to sacrifice. I believe Sacrifice is the key to happiness.

My mantra to happiness would be to make tiny little things happening in day to day life a ray of happiness and keep working towards your targets in life. This way you can burst your stress and can have a balance between your personal and professional life.

YET ANOTHER DILEMMA ABOUT LIFE

I have come up with yet another dilemma about LIFE. Is life a drama? Are we just the actors of this drama?
Shakespeare has said many a times that Life is a drama and we are just puppets.Do you really think so?

When we are sitting in front of the 35 mm screen in the movie theater. And when some kind of emotional scene appears on the screen, tears starts rolling down your cheeks. When we watch some horror movie. We can't sleep that night. At night when there is a pin drop silence and if frog croaks, your heart starts throbbing. The white color pyjams hanging on a string outside would appear to be halloween. Strange but true we all start living the drama playing on the screen though we know there is nothing real about it.

And yet we say life is a drama. Yes it is until unless we get out of deep slumber.

If you believe that life is a drama. Then when some one would love a girl deeply, madly, crazily, for him, that girl would also become a dream, his love would also become a dream. He would say let me get my girl first and then I'll believe that yeah Life is a dream.
If you would believe that life is a drama. Then when some one want to make a big mansion would say that let me make my mansion then I can take it that yeah life is a dream. If some politician would believe that Life is a drama then he would say that let me become chief minister of the state then I can believe that yeah Life is a drama.

Life is a drama.Every one is a puppet. Nothing is constant. "Sab moh maya hai" and all these things are better suited for old people. Why? Because they have already lived life. So the point being until unless we'll have desires to fulfill life can't be a drama for us. The day we'll achieve everything we want, life will become a drama, a story with a happy ending. :) #dilemmasofpriyajain

DILEMMA ABOUT FAITH

Faith??? Does it grow with time? Does it shrink with distance? Should it exist? And here I am referring to the faith in the other person.

What I used to believe is faith grows steadily with each day you spent time with your loved ones. They start knowing you and unknowingly develop faith in you. I have seen couples who were there with each other for 8-9 years in a beautiful love relationship and finally got married. And to my utter shock they got separated. Why??? Because they lack faith in each other. So, my belief turned out into a myth. Faith is not directly proportional to time.

Talk about distances. The closer you live, the closer your hearts are and stronger is the faith. But long distance relationships do exist and believe me they have stronger faith in each other as compared to the ones who live nearby. Why??? As to have a peaceful, true and everlasting relationship faith is the most vital ingredient. 

So what defines faith? And how to develop it? Faith in some one means no complaints about anything the other person do as you have faith in him/her that there has to be a reason behind what he/she does and that has to be good for both the people. Faith means understanding. Faith means reading each other eyes. Faith means silence. Faith means prayer. Faith means pious. 

How to develop faith? Simple just be yourself. Be loyal. Don’t be afraid of speaking the truth. Share what is within. And have faith in the other person that he/she’ll understand. Faith has to be two- way. It is all about give and take. If you can’t get it in return, you’ll start losing it for the other person.

So be raw, be you, be true and develop it. 

So all of you there who deal with faith issues in a relationship open your eyes and see what you have. Treasure what you have. Analyzing, calculating and over thinking can give you profits in your businesses but will turn you into a looser if you take all these into consideration while building a relationship. Love can never be tested. It simply flows. Flow with it and cover the beautiful journey together. (tweet- worthy)

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DILEMMA ABOUT EXPECTATION

Expect-tation meaning by Collin's dictionary is a strong belief that something will happen or be the case.To have strong belief is good. But to crave for the future is bad. Confused!!! To have faith in your destiny is a good thing as life is a series of leaps of faith. Faith is the antidote of fear. But as and when you start expecting things, faith becomes a disease as it 'll give rise to fear.

So the point here I would like to make is Have faith in yourself but never expect anything out of it. Keep doing your work sincerely. Perform the task given to you by the Uni-verse. That is in your hands but time is not in your hands.

Destiny is not in your hands. You are the creation and Creator is looking after the time and destiny. Let him perform his tasks. You should concentrate on your activities.

Now another discussion about expectation is in terms of relationships. Should we expect from our partners, parents, friends and all our near and dear ones. My answer is you should not. You must be wondering, how come we should not expect from the close people. Then what is the use of being close to them? This question itself contains the answer- USE. When we love we cant think of using the other person.

If a person is loving, caring, understanding, supportive to you. It doesn't mean you start expecting things from him. He loves you selflessly. And for me expectation is all about selfishness.

The root cause of misunderstanding, clashes between loved ones is EXPECTATIONS. The day you'll stop expecting from your partner and start loving him or her the way he/she is, you'll enter the heaven.

So should we expect or not? Yes you should expect but just from yourself. Expect things out of you. That will give spirit to move on, to walk forward with grace, to step into the unknown. But the key here is as excess of everything is bad. Dont expect too much. And how will you know you are crossing the limits. Simple, every one knows one's potential. So expect in proportion of your potential. If you want to expect more, increase your potential.

So keep going, keep moving, keep working towards your goals. Your task is moving.

Eye- Opening Quotes about EXPECTATIONS

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” 
― Donald Miller

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” 
― Bruce Lee

“It takes three to make love, not two: you, your spouse, and God. Without God people only succeed in bringing out the worst in one another. Lovers who have nothing else to do but love each other soon find there is nothing else. Without a central loyalty life is unfinished.” 
― Fulton J. Sheen

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DILEMMA ABOUT FEAR

OK. So what is fear according to you? For me fear is nothing but a lack of sense of security, lack of faith, lack of hope, lack of self love. Fear is a lack.

So why one is afraid? The root reason behind the fear is losing. Be it losing love, losing a match, losing a game, loosing a friend, losing money. Whenever you feel like a loser, it means you are surrounded by fear.

Can fear be good in any way? My answer is yes. It keeps you going. If one is not afraid of anything, he can never value that thing. He'll be taking it for granted. He'll be careless towards it. And fear of losing will not affect him. So yes lil fear is good.

But too much anything is bad. And so is the case with fear. You'll lose hope and courage if you are way too afraid. You'll keep doubting your destiny and you'll end up no where. The juice of life is still left for such people to taste.

So just have lil fear in yourself and just run behind your dreams. Keep working towards them. And whenever you are afraid, just give it a thought : " Why you dreamt of such thing? What you gonna do when you'll finally reach your destination? And why you thought you have that potential to reach there?" And half the work is done.

Whenever you lose hope in life think about your achievements in life. Achievements need not to be big. For me bringing happiness on people's face is an achievement. Just ponder on "what defines your achievement?"

Whenever you feel like you gonna lose a friend or love partner. First analyse where you went wrong. And if the answer is you gave your 100 percent and still it didn't work out. Just say it in your mind that the other person is unlucky to not have you in his life. Always have that attitude in life. This is the way to reach the right person in life.


So the remedy to fear is Self- Trust and Self- Love. So people out there keep loving yourself. Have faith in yourself and you'll be there BANG ON!!!

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DILEMMA ABOUT LOVE

So valentine week is here. Love is in the air. So lets gather around and talk about Love.

Sometimes I feel love can really make you weak, tensed and lost. As when you love someone and they are away from you, you are always tensed about them. You always crave to meet them, to talk to them but there comes many situations which will try to separate you from your loved ones be it distance, time or misunderstanding.

Sometimes I feel If there would be no love, how would one can survive. No reason to live for. No one to care about. No longing for someone. Bahhhhhhhhhhh boring.

But just think if we guys start loving ourselves. Start caring about ourselves. Try to run behind our dreams. Yeah sure it will give us immense happiness. But you know what when you'll see your loved one happy faces just because you achieved something.. Believe me you will feel nothing better than that.

What I have learnt is excess of everything is bad. Even love can make you crippled if you keep loving others and not yourself. The day you will start loving yourself, there will be no look back.

The day you'll fall for yourself, it'll be the day you'll rise for others. Confusing right??? Ok i'll make it simpler for you. The fact is when you are happy with yourself then only you can spread love. To love somebody first you have to love yourself.

The day you'll start loving yourself truly, you'll never ever be falling in a ditch. You'll never be following the wrong path.The path of love, goodness, roses will open for you to step forward. And you'll see the drastic change in your environment. People will start loving you immensely.They will look forward to you. You'll become their ideal. They will learn the way of living from you.

So the key to all sufferings is SELF-LOVE.
Love yourself, be good to yourself. Be the person you can fall in love with and there you go. Bang On!!!

You gonna make your life beautiful by doing so. No fear, no worry, no misery, no suffering, any kinda negativity will surrender in front of you. Victory will be all yours. You are abundant. Just remember that. You are not alone. You have soul- your best friend in you. Wake it up before its too late.

Our body is like a factory. And our soul is a manager.If manager gives responsibilities to all the labors and becomes careless. What happens??? The factory gonna shut down one day. The very same way if we give our life to our brain and heart which are nothing but labors. We gonna be facing the loss. Whom we should try to listen to. And the answer is SOUL.

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