DILEMMA ABOUT HAPPINESS

To have broaden lips and teeth visible means " A smile" for major people out there.

Does that mean a person carrying smile is happy? What is the measure of happiness? How can you you know if a person is really happy or just carrying smile?

Do the people who have achieved a lot at the young age are happy totally?

Or are the ones who are struggling to reach their set goals are unhappy totally?

I believe to me happiness is your mood. It can be to watch a cute smile on baby's face. It can be the moment when you play bowling and all of the pins get knocked down with the first ball of a frame.

It can be to be on a family holiday and reliving the old memories of childhood. It can be just to pack up bags when going to even a small town via Indian Railways.

It can be to find a greeting card from an old friend while cleaning your wardrobe.

It can be a one rupee note which is your first pocket money.

It can be just to walk on the terrace and seeing planes crossing overhead.

It is just to feel the breeze in the hair. It is to get clicked randomly at weird places.

It is to make funny faces in the mirror and laugh aloud on yourself.

So, the point being a person who has achieved success at the young age may have missed out to squeeze happiness from tiny things happening in day to day life. He/ she may have invested most of the time and money on his/her business leaving behind his/her family. To reach to that success he has lost many things on personal level. That is a sacrifice. You can't be happy always. To be happy and successful you need to sacrifice. I believe Sacrifice is the key to happiness.

My mantra to happiness would be to make tiny little things happening in day to day life a ray of happiness and keep working towards your targets in life. This way you can burst your stress and can have a balance between your personal and professional life.

YET ANOTHER DILEMMA ABOUT LIFE

I have come up with yet another dilemma about LIFE. Is life a drama? Are we just the actors of this drama?
Shakespeare has said many a times that Life is a drama and we are just puppets.Do you really think so?

When we are sitting in front of the 35 mm screen in the movie theater. And when some kind of emotional scene appears on the screen, tears starts rolling down your cheeks. When we watch some horror movie. We can't sleep that night. At night when there is a pin drop silence and if frog croaks, your heart starts throbbing. The white color pyjams hanging on a string outside would appear to be halloween. Strange but true we all start living the drama playing on the screen though we know there is nothing real about it.

And yet we say life is a drama. Yes it is until unless we get out of deep slumber.

If you believe that life is a drama. Then when some one would love a girl deeply, madly, crazily, for him, that girl would also become a dream, his love would also become a dream. He would say let me get my girl first and then I'll believe that yeah Life is a dream.
If you would believe that life is a drama. Then when some one want to make a big mansion would say that let me make my mansion then I can take it that yeah life is a dream. If some politician would believe that Life is a drama then he would say that let me become chief minister of the state then I can believe that yeah Life is a drama.

Life is a drama.Every one is a puppet. Nothing is constant. "Sab moh maya hai" and all these things are better suited for old people. Why? Because they have already lived life. So the point being until unless we'll have desires to fulfill life can't be a drama for us. The day we'll achieve everything we want, life will become a drama, a story with a happy ending. :) #dilemmasofpriyajain

DILEMMA ABOUT FAITH

Faith??? Does it grow with time? Does it shrink with distance? Should it exist? And here I am referring to the faith in the other person.

What I used to believe is faith grows steadily with each day you spent time with your loved ones. They start knowing you and unknowingly develop faith in you. I have seen couples who were there with each other for 8-9 years in a beautiful love relationship and finally got married. And to my utter shock they got separated. Why??? Because they lack faith in each other. So, my belief turned out into a myth. Faith is not directly proportional to time.

Talk about distances. The closer you live, the closer your hearts are and stronger is the faith. But long distance relationships do exist and believe me they have stronger faith in each other as compared to the ones who live nearby. Why??? As to have a peaceful, true and everlasting relationship faith is the most vital ingredient. 

So what defines faith? And how to develop it? Faith in some one means no complaints about anything the other person do as you have faith in him/her that there has to be a reason behind what he/she does and that has to be good for both the people. Faith means understanding. Faith means reading each other eyes. Faith means silence. Faith means prayer. Faith means pious. 

How to develop faith? Simple just be yourself. Be loyal. Don’t be afraid of speaking the truth. Share what is within. And have faith in the other person that he/she’ll understand. Faith has to be two- way. It is all about give and take. If you can’t get it in return, you’ll start losing it for the other person.

So be raw, be you, be true and develop it. 

So all of you there who deal with faith issues in a relationship open your eyes and see what you have. Treasure what you have. Analyzing, calculating and over thinking can give you profits in your businesses but will turn you into a looser if you take all these into consideration while building a relationship. Love can never be tested. It simply flows. Flow with it and cover the beautiful journey together. (tweet- worthy)

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DILEMMA ABOUT TIME

Let it go. Let it move away. Let it follow its direction. You cannot get hold of anyone in life. Not time. Not people and not circumstances. All of them will move. Nothing remains stagnant and that is what life is. 

People come in your life- gives you memories to cherish lifelong, lessons unlimited, make you understand who you are, some will be your inspiration, some will be your power and some will be the reasons for your successful in way or the other. 

But no one will stick with you forever. One has to leave. Everyone has got a role to play in your life. The day role is going to over, person has to leave.  But you’ll not be empty handed. You’ll be having his/her words always with you ringing in your head.

Talk about time and circumstances. You are happy- you are enjoying- you are shopping- you are hanging out- you are travelling- you are back to work- you are back to daily routine- Someone passes away- you are sad- you are broken- you have lost the job- you are disappointed- you are losing hope- you got a chance once again- you got a job- you got a routine- you are back to normal. 

Time can never remain the same. It tests you. But you’ll always pass the test as time has to pass.

So the bottom line is- Never get hold of things in life. The more you want to hold them, the more you’ll be suffering when they’ll leave you. Sand in your hand will leave your grip and escape. If water becomes stagnant, it’ll stink badly. The same way your life will stink if situations will remain constant.

Moral of the story is - Nothing lasts forever. Like the trees in autumn, you too must learn to shed your attachments and start afresh.

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DILEMMA ABOUT RESPECT

Have you ever pondered upon where do this RESPECT arises???? Who deserves it???? What is the thing that made you earn it???? Earn it I repeat. Yeah I got my answer even Respect is the attribute one has to earn.

You are talented, in fact multi-talented but couldn't earn out of it. You are a genius but opportunity is not knocking your door. You are eligible. You are capable. You have the caliber but your stars are not on your side. Your time is not correct. Do you think people will respect you? Forget about people your own family will respect you? (Hahaha, what are you thinking?) The answer is at one time or the other they'll burst and let you know that they don't respect you for not earning.

Do you think they sympathize with your situation? Yes they do. Sympathizing itself means a disrespect. To sympathize with a situation is to feel helpless, hopeless, pessimist. Its of no use. What one needs is Support- emotional and spiritual. Why your own loved ones lack in giving you that?

The simple and straight answer is they have spent on you and they want the return. They have spent not just money but their hard work, their time, their sincerity, their will and the last thing they want is to see you successful. When they see you loosing thy cant take it. They become frustrated and burst out. Is it their love? Yes it is they have a right to speak their heart out in front of you. Isn't it?

And when ever you feel you are disrespected by your loved ones or by the person least expected, always thank him or her for giving you the challenge to fight. For giving you the chance to prove yourself. Don't be disheartened, depressed and helpless. Just keep faith in yourself, your patience, your sincerity, your will power. You may take time to reach your dream. But the truth is time has to pass. It'll pass.
Till the time you don't deserve a thing, it'll not reach you. So in case you are not getting anything just put lil more effort and you will be bang on there. Always remember even airplane has to reach take off speed for that it rolls on runways before getting airborne. So keep rolling until you build the take off speed and soon you'll lift off. :) (tweet- worthy)

To walk a rosy path and reach your destination can never give you pleasure. The pleasure is in walking stony thorny burning path. The adventure lies in making your own path, finding unusual ways to reach your destination. And when finally you reach it there can be no feeling matchable to that.

So my friends who so ever feel he/she is suffering by not getting what they want, kindly stop feeling helpless and suffered. The time, the situation and your people are making you strong like iron. You are turning out to be a soldier, a steel man, UNBREAKABLE. An d I am proud to be an UNBREAKABLE. Keep chanting that "No one can break me, I am strong enough to fight the world. The power lies in me. I am my HERO." ( tweet- worthy)
Believe me, these lines will bring you back to the senses.These will sync you back with the life.

DILEMMA ABOUT FREEDOM

Dilemma about freedom

FREE- DOM- Is freedom free of safety, security, harassment for girls? Freedom is what every one needs. If someone is restricted, caged and stopped to follow one's will, one feels dead. Isn't it?? Free will will make you fly. It will make you fulfill all your dreams. It will help you grow beautifully inside out. Freedom gives you self confidence and positivity.

What role freedom plays in a relationship? Freedom in a relationship means SPACE. True and healthy relationship is the one where no one binds eachother instead where both of them Fly together.Constant questioning, Doubting, reporting, insecurity, lack of trust: these may lead to a suffering, a burdened relationship.

What wonders can freedom do in a family?Parents should give enough freedom to thier children if they want to show them the right path in life. My parents trust me blindly, actually I should not use the word blindly that may portray that I am at fault and making fool of my parents. They trust me totally. Now it sounds much better. :) I treat my parents as my best friends. Why???

Because they have given me my space. They listen to my problems and not shout and react. Instead give me the support that "yeah we are with you darling." They are very calm with me and thats the reason I feel free with them. Now I can never think of misusing the freedom they have given me. I'll always respect my morals and principles.

Now how can one misuse the freedom??? What too much of freedom can result into??? How to know one's own limits??? OK!!! now as I told you freedom means to do whatever one feels like doing. Do you think our heart always tell you to do the right thing? I think No,  heart makes you an emotional vampire. There should be a synchronization between your mind, heart and soul.

When three of them tell you something to do, JUST DO IT without giving it a second thought.When three of them are conflicting, do what your intuition, gut feeling or soul (whatever you call it) is advising you to do. You'll never be misguided. Thats how you will know your limits. To respect your limits means freedom. 

Now talk about freedom of girls in India and abroad. In Indian culture girls are the representative of the family "aan baan shaan" i.e. prestige. Why only girls are responsible for it?
If I'll tell my father that "daddy if you can allow my brother to go on a tour with his freinds, why cant you allow me?" What  he gonna tell me  "Dear you are a girl thats why."

Why is he being partial? And the biggest reason is : he cares. In India girls are not secured. And we have to understand this. In schools instead of PT, girls should be taught Twakando, judo karate and other self defense activities.

Whats the scene in abroad?? In western culture girls and boys are treated on same level. Parents leave them on thier own. They actually do whatever they feel like. They hardly have any limits. Still they feel depressed, sad and lonely. Why?? The reason is too much of freedom and lack of limits.

So we should have freedom in life but up to what extent totally depends on you and only you. So know your limits and you'll be flying High leaving all the worries back down there.

 Eye- Opening Quotes about FREEDOM

“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”
― Gloria Steinem 

“Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.”
― Mahatma Gandhi 

“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre  

“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”
― Robert A. Heinlein
 


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DILEMMA ABOUT EXPECTATION

Expect-tation meaning by Collin's dictionary is a strong belief that something will happen or be the case.To have strong belief is good. But to crave for the future is bad. Confused!!! To have faith in your destiny is a good thing as life is a series of leaps of faith. Faith is the antidote of fear. But as and when you start expecting things, faith becomes a disease as it 'll give rise to fear.

So the point here I would like to make is Have faith in yourself but never expect anything out of it. Keep doing your work sincerely. Perform the task given to you by the Uni-verse. That is in your hands but time is not in your hands.

Destiny is not in your hands. You are the creation and Creator is looking after the time and destiny. Let him perform his tasks. You should concentrate on your activities.

Now another discussion about expectation is in terms of relationships. Should we expect from our partners, parents, friends and all our near and dear ones. My answer is you should not. You must be wondering, how come we should not expect from the close people. Then what is the use of being close to them? This question itself contains the answer- USE. When we love we cant think of using the other person.

If a person is loving, caring, understanding, supportive to you. It doesn't mean you start expecting things from him. He loves you selflessly. And for me expectation is all about selfishness.

The root cause of misunderstanding, clashes between loved ones is EXPECTATIONS. The day you'll stop expecting from your partner and start loving him or her the way he/she is, you'll enter the heaven.

So should we expect or not? Yes you should expect but just from yourself. Expect things out of you. That will give spirit to move on, to walk forward with grace, to step into the unknown. But the key here is as excess of everything is bad. Dont expect too much. And how will you know you are crossing the limits. Simple, every one knows one's potential. So expect in proportion of your potential. If you want to expect more, increase your potential.

So keep going, keep moving, keep working towards your goals. Your task is moving.

Eye- Opening Quotes about EXPECTATIONS

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” 
― Donald Miller

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” 
― Bruce Lee

“It takes three to make love, not two: you, your spouse, and God. Without God people only succeed in bringing out the worst in one another. Lovers who have nothing else to do but love each other soon find there is nothing else. Without a central loyalty life is unfinished.” 
― Fulton J. Sheen

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